Ruling on a woman marrying someone who attends Mawlid celebrations and practices some innovations

 

(an innovation). But the
ruling on those who do it depends on what actions contrary to sharee’ah they
do in this Mawlid. Therefore the matter may extend as far as shirk and going
beyond the pale of Islam, if any actions which are known to constitute kufr
are committed on this occasion, such as calling upon anyone other than
Allaah, or attributing any divine qualities to the Prophet peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) etc. But if it does not go that far, then
the one who attends such events is a faasiq (rebellious evildoer) but not a
kaafir, and his fisq (rebellion) varies according to the unIslamic or
innovated actions he does in the Mawlid. 

With regard to the issue of marrying a man who participates
in things like the Mawlid, the ruling varies according to the state of the
man. If he does things that constitute kufr then it is not permissible to
marry him under any circumstances, because Allaah says (interpretation of
the meaning): 

“And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikoon
till they believe (in Allaah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better
than a (free) Mushrik (idolater), even though he pleases you”

[al-Baqarah 2:221] 

Such a marriage would be regarded as null and void, according
to the consensus of the scholars. 

But if the innovation does not reach the degree of kufr, the
scholars still issued a stern warning against marrying innovators. Imaam
Maalik (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “Do not marry a woman from among
the innovators, or give your daughter in marriage to an innovator, or greet
them with salaam…” (al-Mudawwanah, 1/84). Imaam Ahmad (may Allaah
have mercy on him) said something similar. 

The four Imaams (may Allaah have mercy on them) stated that
religious compatibility between the man and woman is one of the matters
which must be taken into consideration. A faasiq (rebellious evildoer) is
not compatible with a righteous, religiously-committed Muslim woman, because
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Is then he who is a believer like him who is a Faasiq
(disbeliever and disobedient to Allaah)? Not equal are they”

[al-Sajdah 32:18] 

Undoubtedly, following innovation in religion is one of the
most serious forms of fisq (rebellion, evildoing). Paying attention to
religious compatibility means that if the woman discovers that her husband
is a faasiq, or if it becomes clear to her guardians that the husband is a
faasiq after the marriage contract has taken place, then the woman or her
guardians has the right to object to this contract and ask for it to be
annulled. But if they choose to forego this right, then the contract is
valid. 

Hence we should be careful to avoid such marriages,
especially since the man is in charge of the woman (qawwaamah) and he may
give the woman a hard time or force her to commit some acts of bid’ah, or
make her go against the Sunnah in some matters. With regard to the children,
their situation is more serious, because there is the risk that he will
bring them up to follow his innovation, so they will grow up following a
path other than that of Ahl al-Sunnah. This will cause great hardship and
difficulty to their mother who follows the way of Ahl al-Sunnah
wa’l-Jamaa’ah. 

In conclusion, according to the scholars of Ahl al-Sunnah it
is strongly makrooh for a woman to marry a Muslim man who follows bid’ah,
because of the bad consequences that will result from that, and because it
will cancel out many good things. 

And whoever gives up something for the sake of Allaah, Allaah
will compensate him with something better than it. 

And Allaah knows best. 

See Mawqif Ahl al-Sunnah wa’l-Jamaa’ah min Ahl al-Ahwaa’
wa’l-Bida’ by Dr. Ibraaheem al-Raheeli, 1/373-388.